Here are some options you can help them consider while helping your client draw up a safety plan:

Encourage them to identify supportive people around them. A caring presence such as a trusted friend or family member can help create a calm atmosphere to think through difficult situations and discuss potential options.
Help them assess the risk of danger before it occurs by helping them identify triggers and potential levels of abuse. Ask them when the abuse occurs, and listen to them to try and identify what triggers the abuse.
Help them identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons. If there is an argument, they can go to these safe areas. Help them find ways to escape the home if necessary. Keeping contacts of trusted friends, police, women’s organisations on speed dial can be useful.
If the physical violence is unavoidable, teach them how to make themselves a small target by diving into a corner and curling up into a ball. If they avoid wearing dupattas or long jewelry, and tying their hair, it can’t be used to hurt them. They must try to avoid running to where their children are, as the abuser can hurt them too.
Advise them to talk to trusted friends and neighbors about their situation and develop a plan and visual signals for when they need help. They could also decide on a code word to use in times of danger. It should be something that both of them identify easily, but that the abuser doesn't necessarily recognize such as the name of a particular flower, or even a movie.
If your client has children, encourage them to talk to their children about what is happening. They can tell their children that it is not their fault and that they didn’t cause it. She can reassure them by saying that she wants to protect them and for that, they have to come up with a plan to use in case of emergencies. Teaching children about how to get help can be useful.
Prepare them to leave the house anytime violence happens. Be prepared about the place they are going to—it could be a friend, a relative or if needed, a shelter home.
Encourage them to store all essential belongings - documents, money, phone, clothes, medicines - in one safe place which can be taken while leaving.
After leaving the relationship, advise your client to be careful not to give their new contact/address to everybody.

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