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Walking towards hope

R Sriram Srinivas, who has multiple disabilities—mental retardation and spastic diplegia—takes a breather during his yoga session at home. P Settu, his yoga therapist, who has been teaching Sriram two years now, says that Sriram used to be inattentive and restless, but now follows instructions well and has mellowed down significantly.  

 

 

Images and text by Naveen P M

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M Vanitha, Sriram's teacher, helps Sriram wear his dance apparel before the start of the 'World Differently Abled Day Cultural Programme' at Don Guanella Special School in Chennai. Due to Sriram's condition, simple tasks such as putting on clothes can become a chore and he often ends up needing some assistance. 

 

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Sriram rides his bicycle—fitted with a custom-made backrest—flanked by special education teacher, G V Arumugam. Arumugam has known Sriram for 15 years and was initially hired to teach him basic reading and writing skills. On Sriram's parents' request, he started to assist Sriram in walking and then taught him how to ride a bicycle so he could improve his muscle tone. 

Read Sriram's story here

 

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R Devi helps Sriram read a clock at Sai Sri Ram Training Centre. Sriram has difficulty reading and writing even basic words, and has a hard time grasping universal concepts such as time, date, and money. Devi is Sriram's favorite teacher. Sai Sri Ram Training Centre has eight students with special needs, two teachers, and a domestic help. The school functions from 10 am to 3 pm and keeps the students busy with a plethora of activities such as coloring, computer games, and yoga.

 

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M R Karthik, physical trainer, subjects Sriram to one of the many "balancing exercises" to improve his balance and correct his "scissor gait". Karthik has been training Sriram for the last two years. "In the beginning, Sriram could hardly stand for a minute on his own and displayed a lot of traits commonly seen in persons with Intellectual Disability (ID), such as lack of eye contact, droning, drooling...," says Karthik.

Read Sriram's story here

 

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Sriram and his classmates from Sai Sri Ram Training Centre perform to a medley of Bollywood songs at the 'World Differently Abled Day Cultural Programme' held in Don Guanella Special School, Chennai. P Dharani Kumar, a professional choreographer, composed the dance moves for this performance. He visits the school every weekend to teach dance to these students. "Sriram usually has trouble recollecting and executing my dance moves but he stepped his game up through some spontaneous moves," he said. 

Read Sriram's story here

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Sriram is ecstatic after receiving a silver medal for the Standing Long Jump event. His driver, D Alvin (right), and Sriram's mother, R Vanitha, gather around to congratulate him, at the Special Olympics Sports Meet held on YMCA Grounds, Chennai. Sriram shares a special bond with Alvin and the two can often be seen engaging in healthy banter. 

 

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Sriram does a lap of backstroke at The League Club, Chennai. His parents introduced him to swimming at the age of seven after a doctor suggested hydropathy as treatment. Sriram has been training under U Sathish Kumar, swim coach for children with special needs, for one year now. Sriram won four gold medals in as many events at two swim meets for para-athletes held last year in Tamil Nadu.

 

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Dr J Paul Devasagayam, Area Director, Special Olympics Bharat, Tamil Nadu, reviews Sriram Srinivas's progress with his mother, R Vanitha, during one of their monthly meetings at his 100-square-foot office in Purasawalkam, Chennai.

 

Body image issues among adolescents

How we see ourselves and how we feel about our body constitutes body image. It becomes an important component of how we define ourselves and has an effect on our self-worth and self-confidence. Those who are satisfied with how they look and are confident in their self-worth, have a positive body image. On the other hand, those who are dissatisfied with how they look or believe that they need to change the way they look and feel, have a negative body image.

When does it become an issue?

Not all of us are completely satisfied with the way we look and feel about ourselves. Most of us want to change something or the other about the way we look. But for some, this dissatisfaction becomes a persistent worry; they are unable to focus on their other responsibilities - studies, career or their daily routine. It is then considered a body image issue.
Body image issues affect both boys and girls - but in different ways. Women may want to look young and slim, whereas men may want to look muscular and masculine.

Body image and adolescents

Adolescents are in the process of identifying and understanding themselves and the world around them. They are also in the process of creating an identity for themselves and understanding their changing bodies. There are several factors that influence how an adolescent regards his or her body: family environment, television and movies, advertising and existing fashion trends are some of them.

Today, social media also plays a critical role with adolescents seeking validation from their friends through 'likes' for their photos.

Some experiences that can lead to an adolescent developing a negative body image include:

-- Teasing and negative comments from family members about their body, such as dappa (fat in Kannada) or tingu (short in Hindi)

-- Being bullied at school or college for their body size or shape

-- Having a body that is different from the 'ídeal' body that they see in the media

-- Having a perfectionist attitude

-- Having low self-esteem or self confidence

-- Peer group dynamics and peer pressure to look perfect and 'fit-in'

Adolescents with poor body image may become very moody and avoid social situations because they assume that they are not 'fit' to appear in public. Prolonged thoughts about poor body image can adversely affect a person's daily life and lead to mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, or in extreme cases, eating disorders or body dysmorphic disorder.

Signs of poor body image

As a parent, you can look out for signs that your child may be suffering from poor body image. They are:

-- Always looking at their image or 'imperfections' in the mirror

-- Avoiding social situations

-- Obsessed with counting calories, taking up crash diets

-- Seeking reassurance for their looks repeatedly from others

-- Talking negatively about their body, such as 'I feel ugly', 'I wish I had a better body' etc

-- Talking about seeking a cosmetic surgeon for cosmetic changes

-- Obsessed with going to the gym or completely ignoring their obesity

Experts say that sometimes children may be aping the adults' behavior. If the parents are constantly conscious of what they eat at home and are perfectionists about the way they look, children can model their behavior. Therefore, parents need to be careful about how they communicate about physical body and looks, directly and indirectly.

Here are some ways parents can help children develop a positive body image:

-- Avoid comparison with other children - especially about their looks

-- Avoid comparison and name calling with siblings, cousins

-- Appreciate the child for other qualities such as their kindness, helpful nature or their talents

-- Communicate with other family members to stop commenting on body image

-- Make healthy eating and physical activity part of family routine

Parents need to talk to their children about the changes in body during adolescence and reassure them that they can speak to them about their concerns regarding their physical changes.

This content has been created with inputs from Dr Paulomi Sudhir, clinical psychologist at NIMHANS.

References

https://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/article/you-might-be-body-shaming-your-child-without-even-knowing-it

http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/body_image.html/context/1064#do


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